How to Control Your Mind & Emotions | भगवद् गीता | Dr Vivek Bindra
How to Control Your Mind
The mind consists of many different parts that can each exert influence on your behavior. "You" may want to change how influential a part of your mind is. For example, the part of your mind that cares about getting enough calories and nutrients may urge you to eat rich fatty foods, but another part of you recognizes that in the long run, excessive over eating will ruin your health and your physical image.To control your mind, exerting self-control over behaviors you want to change is key. There are a number of tricks you can employ to change your mind and ultimately your behavior.
Avoid rumination.You may find yourself thinking about something negative, even when you really don't want to. There are a number of tricks you can use to control your mind and stop ruminating:
- Think about the worst-case scenario. Although this seems counter-intuitive and like it would just lead to even more ruminating, when you think about the worst-case scenario, and then think about whether you would be able to handle it; you'll likely find that you can imagine yourself handling the situation and this can help decrease your worry.
- Schedule time for yourself to worry. By setting aside time to think about your problem, you can rest assured that it will get the attention it (maybe) needs; this can help you stop thinking excessively about your problem when you don't want to.
- Go for a walk. Getting out and about can get your mind off of your worries, either simply because of the exercise itself or because you will be taking in new information (sights, sounds, smells) which can help your mind wander to other, less distressing things.
Believe in yourself and that you can change.If you don't believe that you can change you're not going to try nearly as hard as if you believe success is possible. So, make sure that you're using positive thinking to face your problem. Try to keep in mind that you can change the way you think, that you can improve.
- Studies show that individuals adopting this "growth" mindset are more likely to make desired improvements than those who view their traits and skills as fixed and unchangeable.
Be optimistic about your abilities.You might think that being accurate about your ability to control yourself is key. However, studies show that being overly optimistic about your ability to control your behavior can help give you even more self-control.
- To be optimistic, try telling yourself that you will succeed and control your mind over and over again, even if in the moment you don't believe so.
- Try also to remind yourself of times where you successfully controlled your mind as intended. Reflect only on these successes and not on any self-control failures you might have had.
Re-appraise what you are struggling to control.Try changing how you look at the thing you are struggling to control. For example, if a part of your mind really wants to have wine but you are trying to stop drinking, try imagining the wine as poison. Imagine it going all through your body, infecting your cells and organs. Studies show that having individuals mentally transform (re-appraise) desirable things into less desirable things facilitates their self-control efforts to avoid the desirable thing.
- To do this, really try vividly imagining and playing along with the idea that the object you wish to avoid has changed its properties.
Stop overgeneralizing.Overgeneralizing means taking a single occurrence of a negative experience and projecting it onto other experiences or to your predictions about how the future will be. For example, someone who overgeneralizes might say, "I had a difficult childhood, so my life is going to be difficult forever." To stop overgeneralizing, you might:
- Take it upon yourself to change your own future through hard work and persistence. For example, if you had a difficult childhood and think your life is going to be difficult forever, you might identify ways in which you want your life to improve, and work to improve them.
- Continuing the example, perhaps you want more meaningful relationships and a better job. You might research ways to obtain those things and then set goals for yourself in those domains to accomplish.
Avoid personalization.This is a thought trap where you take personal responsibility for things that are out of your control. For example, if your daughter fell down at school you might say "It is my fault that she fell" when in reality the situation was entirely out of your control.
- To avoid personalization, try to think carefully and logically about events that you are personalizing. It can help to ask yourself some questions.
- For example, you might ask yourself "What could I actually have done to stop my daughter from falling down, given that I wasn't at school with her?"
Stop jumping to conclusions.This is a thought trap that involves thinking certain things without any evidence to back those thoughts up.For example, someone who jumps to conclusions might think that a person doesn't like him without any evidence supporting that assertion.
- To stop jumping to conclusions, you can pause and think more before reaching judgments. It can help to ask yourself questions about the thought. For example, you can ask yourself if you really know that the thought you are having is true. You can also ask yourself to identify specific pieces of evidence that would suggest that the thought is true. Using the prior example, someone who thinks a person doesn't like him might ask himself to identify particular conversations with that person that provide evidence for the claim.
Avoid catastrophizing.This is a negative thought trap wherein the person blows things out of proportion. For example, someone who is catastrophizing after failing a test might say "My life is ruined, I'll never get a good job now."
- To stop catastrophizing, work on thinking more positively. You can also ask yourself questions that employ logic and reason. For example, someone who failed a test and thinks his life is ruined because he will never get a good job might ask himself: "Do I know anyone who has failed a test yet still gotten a good job and/or seems happy?" "If I was hiring someone would I make my entire decision based on that person's grade in a single class?"
Forming Good Habits
Create a plan for your life.If you have a clear path for what you want in life, you may be less likely to be swayed by temptations that will hurt you in the long run. Write down the major things you want out of life: Is it a good career? Having a family of your own one day? Becoming financially wealthy?
- You don't have to lay out very detailed steps for achieving these goals as part of this exercise; instead, remember to keep your overarching goals in mind so you stay on track in your life.
- To form personal goals, it is important not to set the bar too high or else you will fail and this can kill your motivation.
- Instead, set some big goals (e.g., learn how to code software), but break those bigger more distal goals into smaller more achievable goals (e.g., read 1 chapter of a software coding book every week). In this way you can see tangible amounts of progress as you work toward accomplishing your more distal goals.
Smile, even if you don't feel like it.Negative feelings can reduce self-control and make it more difficult for you to control your mind.One way to counteract negative feelings is, simply, to smile.
- Although the idea that feeling happy causes you to smile is more intuitive, the facial feedback hypothesis suggests that smiling can actually cause you to feel happiness.
Spend time or money on others.Research shows that spending on others can increase happiness and well-being. Happiness and well-being can increase your self-image and reduce negative feelings that make self-control more difficult.
- Exactly how you spend your time or money on others isn't that important. What matters is that you and those you are helping find it valuable.
Create obstacles for yourself.One way to control your mind is to make it more difficult for it to get what it wants. This extra effort will make it so that part of your mind is less likely to win out and influence your behavior. For example, if you want to control the part of your mind that wants to watch TV when a part of you wants to cut down on your TV watching time, you could put your remote control in a difficult to reach spot.
- Another example is that if you keep hitting the snooze button in the morning, you could place your alarm clock far from your bed, so that you are forced to get out of bed to turn it off.
- A further example is if you are having trouble refraining from sex, and you want to change this behavior, you could avoid putting yourself in situations that lead to sex: you could stay away from bars, nightclubs, and you could delete the phone numbers of people you sometimes hook-up with.
Reward your successful self-control efforts.When you successfully control your mind, reward yourself so that you are more likely to continue to do so in the future.For example, say you really didn't feel like exercising but you forced yourself to do it anyways, reward yourself with a piece of chocolate or with an episode of your favorite TV show.
- Be careful not to make the reward too excessive or you may find yourself out of control and back to square one where you started. For example, if your goal is to lose weight and you controlled your mind and exercised when you didn't feel like it, don't eat several chocolates or you will just lose the progress that you made.
Punish unsuccessful self-control efforts.Just like rewarding successes can aid in future self-control, punishing yourself for self-control failures can aid in future self-control as well. In fact, studies show that the threat of punishments can lead people to exert more self-control.
- To ensure the punishment's effectiveness, place it in the hands of a family member, friend, or partner and tell them to dish it out if you fail to exert the self-control you desired. For example, they could hide your dessert and, at the end of the day if you failed to achieve your self-control goals, they could withhold that dessert from you.
Reduce stress.The mind and body are deeply connected; the mind can make the body stressed, and physiological stress in the body can lead the mind to feel stressed.When people are stressed they exert self-control to deal with those stressors and often have reduced self-control afterwards.As such, it is important to reduce stress to conserve self-control energy. There are a number of ways to reduce stress with evidence showing they work to some degree:
- Try relaxation techniques such as deep abdominal breathing, which involves breathing in deeply and holding your breath for a few seconds then slowly exhaling over the course of several seconds. You may also try focusing your mind on a single soothing word (such as calm or peace).
- Get some exercise, which will help you to breathe deeply and relax your tense muscles.
- Talk to friends and family, since social support can act as a buffer against stress.
QuestionHow can I control anger?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerBy practicing. Every time you are faced with a situation that makes you angry, this is your practice lesson. You can decide on every situation to give in to your anger and let it out, or to accept that this situation makes you angry, breathe deeply, relax and once you are relaxed (might be several hours, or days later), you can think of a general solution to changing the situations you don't like.Thanks!
QuestionHow do I control mental tension?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerExercise will help you quite a lot. A daily trip to the gym or session with a punching bag will relieve a lot of tension without a lot of thought.Thanks!
QuestionI feel very depressed. I would like to remove all doubt and bad habits from my mind. How do I do it?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerGet out and help other people. There's no better way to lift the spirit, forget one's problems, and feel deep gratitude than to help those who are less fortunate than you.Thanks!
QuestionHow do I overcome failure?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerWe face many hurdles and failures in life, and every time we do, we see it as the first time. We do not think of past failures and how we overcame them. Recall how you overcame your failures in the past, and you will find your way.Thanks!
QuestionHow can I not be used by people who control minds?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTake responsibility for your own thoughts and ideas. You are in complete control of whether or not you buy into someone else's perspectives and viewpoints or whether you prefer your own. If you prefer to avoid conflict, do so without agreeing or the other person will think they can control you. Instead, learn to at least disagree politely and say simply that you're glad they have that opinion but what works for you is still what you'll be doing.Thanks!
QuestionHow can I be more self disciplined?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt depends on what you mean by that! If you want to stay focused on your work or homework, it's good to put distractions out of the way (as in, in another room if possible) and set a timer for the amount of time you want to be focused. Afterwards, you can reward yourself with a light snack or something equally harmless and enjoyable.Thanks!
QuestionCan I successfully complete this process while grieving?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerYes, but be very careful not to get stuck in a negative trail of thought. Try to focus on a positive idea or thought and fill your body with it. If you are afraid or have a negative experience, read some more advice, or talk to a friend or counselor.Thanks!
QuestionI get distracted by bad videos, what can I do?barbra stevensCommunity AnswerBad TV and videos affect us all in a negative manner. Keep the TV off when you are doing important things. If you need a noise, play soothing music in the background. Limit bad negative videos/TV to an hour a day. Then watch something positive for that amount of time or more, or better yet, read a book.Thanks!
QuestionHow can I overcome doubts I have about my girlfriend?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerLearn to trust her by being honest and showing her she can trust you. Take some time and sit with her and talk about your feelings and your insecurity.Thanks!
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